Talking with children about difficult topics can be challenging for adults. It can be even harder for some children to understand and communicate their thoughts and feelings about certain subjects. It is important to be patient and understanding, and to keep the lines of communication open at all times.
Instructions
1. Have the conversation in a comfortable and known environment if possible, such as the home. This will help keep both the adult and child a little more relaxed. Keep it private as well, so interruptions will be minimal and both of you can feel assured that your conversation is just between the two of you, and not anyone else.
3. Encourage your child to express his feelings and
to ask questions. Be sure and listen carefully to them and be open regarding
what they may say. Any negative responses may discourage the child from
continuing to talk and ask questions. Let them talk as much as you do, or more
so, if needed. This way it will be a two-way conversation instead of a lecture.
4. Educate the child as best as you can. If your
difficult topic is about sex, be honest and truthful in your talk. Give her
facts and figures if needed. You may consider educating yourself beforehand so
that you are more prepared. If your difficult topic is death, again, be honest
in your discussion. If you don't know the answer to a question, assure them you
will find that answer, if possible.
5. Plan a followup discussion. Talking with a child
about difficult topics is not likely to be done in one sitting. Breaking it up
is best. You may think of other things to say after the fact, and your child
may later come with questions or concerns. Let them know they are always
welcome to come to you to talk anytime they want, but perhaps setting up a time
to get together in the future and talk will help encourage them to think of
things before that time.
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